Navigating Social Interactions: To roll with the punches is good—to stop doing things that make people want to punch you is better!
How to Stop Getting (Socially) Punched in the Face
Because Rolling with the Punches Is Good—Dodging Them Entirely Is Better
Ever feel like you’re in a nonstop sparring match in social situations?
You smile through gritted teeth, tell yourself “I’m fine, everything’s fine,” and try to “just let it go.”
But what if instead of being the chill ninja who dodges chaos…
you stopped doing the things that make people want to (metaphorically) punch you in the first place?
Let’s explore the fine art of not being that person.
1. Drama Queen Detour: Don’t Be the Problem You Complain About
You know that coworker who’s always in the middle of drama… but somehow never sees their starring role in it?
Rolling with the punches is admirable. But throwing the first jab (or firing off that spicy passive-aggressive email)? Not so much.
Instead, try this:
Ask yourself, “Am I calming this down—or stirring the pot with my ladle of righteousness?”
Ditch the vent session. Choose a direct, kind convo.
Let silence win sometimes. You don’t need the last word—just peace of mind.
2. Conversation Rehab: Less Interruption, More Curiosity
Ever had a chat that felt like a hostage situation—with you bound in “Uh-huh”s while the other person monologues?
Here’s your freedom key: Be the listener people actually enjoy talking to.
Quick rewires:
Count to three before jumping in. (Every pause isn’t an invite.)
Mirror what they said before you redirect the convo.
Stop scripting your comeback while they’re still talking. They can feel it. We all can.
3. Digital Dust-Ups: Read the Room (Even on the Internet)
Ah, social media—where pineapple pizza ignites war and typos are unforgivable.
If you’re always in a keyboard crusade, pause: Is this my hill? Or is it just a typo with a view?
Smarter screen habits:
If you wouldn’t say it out loud at brunch, maybe don’t post it at midnight.
Let go of being the correction cop—there’s no award for “Most Pedantic.”
Ask: “Am I adding light… or just more static?”
4. Mirror Check: Be Self-Aware, Not Just Self-Defensive
Here’s a fun (read: slightly painful) truth:
If the same tension keeps popping up in different places… the common factor might be staring back at you.
But the good news? If you’re the pattern—you’re also the power.
✍️Note to Self: Rolling with the punches shows strength. But stopping the reasons people throw them? That’s next-level growth.
Soft Skills, Smoother Sailing:
- Watch reactions. Do people clam up, change subjects, or suddenly “have a meeting” when you start talking?
- Ask for honest feedback from someone who tells it like it is with love.
- Trade in your verbal hammer for a cushion. Softer delivery = stronger results.
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About Tony
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Tony Brigmon | Speaker—Emcee | TonyBrigmon.com
Tony Brigmon is a party animal. He’s been known to stay up well past nine o’clock drinking root beer and telling G-rated jokes. Sure, the neighbors complain, but that doesn’t stop him. Because Tony is serious about having fun. Serious fun, with serious results.
As a result of his questionable spelling skills, Tony learned at an early age that his name spelled backward is “YNOT.” As in, “YNOT take a closer look at his book?” Or “YNOT smile when you should be crying?”
Tony was a Southwest Airlines “Insider” and the former “face” of their renowned culture as their official “Ambassador of Fun”. At Southwest Airlines, “fun” was the power of “positivity” that helped catapult a small carrier into a force that changed the airline industry.
Today, Tony is a popular speaker, emcee, and author of The FUNomenal™ Workplace. (FUNomenal™ is pronounced the same as phenomenal but it’s a lot more FUN.)
Former CEO of Southwest Airlines Howard Putnam says: “Tony has a gift for blending fun and capturing ideas in a manner that sticks for audiences.” Tony’s friends say that no one should have so much fun while sober. Tony’s wife said she has had about all the cheerfulness she can stand.
“Fun” transformed this author’s work and life. YNOT discover if the serious power of fun can transform the next 30 seconds of your day or 30 years of your life?
YNOT arrange to have Tony Brigmon teach you and your team how the power of fun can help you get more done, bring out the best in everyone, and make you irresistibly attractive in your communication with others. You can do this. So, YNOT?
