It is what it is. If you make it more or less than that, it’s not the Truth. Admit the Truth to be FREE to make it what it can be.
How to know you’ve hit Bottom: You no longer debate about whose fault your problems are. Good. Now you can begin the ascent.
If you learn quickly from a wrong, you won’t be wrong long. Until you can admit a wrong, it won’t feel right ever. Admit it.