Changing It or Choosing It: If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it—but if you are changing it, you’re losing it—to gain something better. Growth loves a good swap!
Changing It or Choosing It: The Swap That Growth Loves
Let’s talk about that thing in your life—the soul-sucking job, the relationship that feels more “hostage situation” than happy, or the Mount Laundry you’ve declared a national landmark.
Here’s the hard truth wrapped in a soft hoodie:
If you’re not changing it, you’re choosing it.
And if you are changing it? Yes, you’re losing something…
…but only to make space for something better.
Growth? Oh, it’s a swapaholic. Let’s unpack.
1. Stuck… or Just Choosing Safe?
Inaction isn’t neutral. It’s a decision in yoga pants, scrolling TikTok with a side of denial.
Take Tom. Every Sunday night, he treated Monday like it was “The Return of Jobzilla.” Did he look for something better? Nope. He marinated in misery like it was a lifestyle.
We’ve all been Tom. Why? Because even the miserable known feels safer than the terrifying unknown. But here’s the twist: “No choice” is often just code for “too tired to choose.”
Self-check: If you’re not changing it… are you actually choosing it?
Growth always asks for payment. But spoiler alert: stagnation sends a bill, too.
Quit the job that eats your soul? You might lose a paycheck—but gain peace and the ability to unclench your jaw.
End a draining friendship? You lose a vent buddy. You gain emotional oxygen.
The math never lies: something has to go to make room for better.
3. Swapping Comfort for Something Greater
Change feels like loss at first. Like rearranging furniture—you’re knee-deep in chaos before it starts to make sense.
Just ask Amy. Her relationship had flatlined. When she finally walked away, it was quiet. Lonely. Weird.
But soon? She found peace, joy, new friends, and someone who actually laughed at her weird llama impressions. (Hey, love comes in all shapes and snorts.)
Her trade? Comfort for a comeback.
So if you’re in that awkward, messy middle—hang tight. Growth is just clearing the runway.
✍️Note to Self: Growth is a trade-up. If you’re holding on to what no longer serves you, ask: What am I willing to lose to gain something better?
This Week’s Challenge:
Name one thing you’ve been tolerating—and decide your next step. Will you choose it or change it? Growth is waiting for your RSVP.
AI Sidekick Alert: Today’s Quote was unpacked and shaped with more than a little help from my brilliant, behind-the-scenes AI tools.
About Tony
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Tony Brigmon | Speaker—Emcee | TonyBrigmon.com
Tony Brigmon is a party animal. He’s been known to stay up well past nine o’clock drinking root beer and telling G-rated jokes. Sure, the neighbors complain, but that doesn’t stop him. Because Tony is serious about having fun. Serious fun, with serious results.
As a result of his questionable spelling skills, Tony learned at an early age that his name spelled backward is “YNOT.” As in, “YNOT take a closer look at his book?” Or “YNOT smile when you should be crying?”
Tony was a Southwest Airlines “Insider” and the former “face” of their renowned culture as their official “Ambassador of Fun”. At Southwest Airlines, “fun” was the power of “positivity” that helped catapult a small carrier into a force that changed the airline industry.
Today, Tony is a popular speaker, emcee, and author of The FUNomenal™ Workplace. (FUNomenal™ is pronounced the same as phenomenal but it’s a lot more FUN.)
Former CEO of Southwest Airlines Howard Putnam says: “Tony has a gift for blending fun and capturing ideas in a manner that sticks for audiences.” Tony’s friends say that no one should have so much fun while sober. Tony’s wife said she has had about all the cheerfulness she can stand.
“Fun” transformed this author’s work and life. YNOT discover if the serious power of fun can transform the next 30 seconds of your day or 30 years of your life?
YNOT arrange to have Tony Brigmon teach you and your team how the power of fun can help you get more done, bring out the best in everyone, and make you irresistibly attractive in your communication with others. You can do this. So, YNOT?
