You can never go wrong commending someone for what they did right: ‘Well done!’
How to encourage personal growth in others: Stop the criticisms. Start the compliments. Start and stop frequently.
How to stay happily together: Work through problems together.
Put up or shut up. Put others *up* in your conversations. When tempted to put them down, shut up. How to stay up? Put up.
Look for the good, not the should, in others. You’ll get a much better return on investment with what you find and share.
The proper tone at the Top? Tooting the horn of recognition of all contributors from the bottom up. Sounds great. Motivates great.